A bounded novel for my boyfriend about out romantic relationship – will he appreciate it. Guys help!!?
Please hear me out. Im 22 and soon to be engaged to my boyfriend. I know guys dont usually apprecoate scrapbooking from their girlfriend but i was thinking to write a short novel/story about our romantic relationship. How it started off and where we are at the moment. Inc some photos, convos, etc but mainly a writing chunk!!! Hope that makes sense!! I wanted to type it up and get it professionally bound and embossed. So it looks manly/masculine and like a published book (except its private for him and me). Would he apprciate this more. GUYS – would you appreciate this if ure girlfriend gave it to you?!?! Please advise!!
Sorry, I’m not a guy, but I’d like to give my opinion anyway because I spent most of my life married.
A man may smile and say, "Oh thanks, that’s sweet" and he might read it through, but it would be a source of vague embarrassment and would probably be hidden in a drawer for fear any other man would ever see it.
That’s way too mushy for most guys.
You don’t want to remove from a relationship all the excitement of the hunt.
If you always let a man know that you feel irrevocably bonded to him you introduce clinginess and become too much of a "sure thing." You fade into the wall and might as well be a piece of furniture.
Men want a feeling that they have through great luck found a valuable woman that other men want. It’s what keeps the excitement in a marriage.
So I think little gestures of love are better than being joined at the hip with sappy emotions.
If you must give him something, give him a photo album of your prettiest pictures doing some athletic or dangerous thing. Crowd scenes are good, to remind him that you do get out into the world.
My apologies if any of this does not apply to your relationship, or if I have gone too far.
But I would not have been married so many years if I had let myself lose control of the mystery of attraction.
July 27th, 2010 at 9:47 pm
I’m not a guy, but I can tell you that he will not like this. And quite honestly if I were you, I’d be worried if he did. I love your idea, I think it’s great, but he wouldn’t like it. He will appreciate the effort, but not like the gift and fake his reaction.
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July 27th, 2010 at 10:17 pm
Maybe you don’t want to give the book to him; just let him look at it once in awhile. That way you can keep it safe. He might accidentally throw it away if you give it to him. If you keep it safe you can kind of make him jealous that you have it and he doesn’t.
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July 27th, 2010 at 11:02 pm
Sorry, I’m not a guy, but I’d like to give my opinion anyway because I spent most of my life married.
A man may smile and say, "Oh thanks, that’s sweet" and he might read it through, but it would be a source of vague embarrassment and would probably be hidden in a drawer for fear any other man would ever see it.
That’s way too mushy for most guys.
You don’t want to remove from a relationship all the excitement of the hunt.
If you always let a man know that you feel irrevocably bonded to him you introduce clinginess and become too much of a "sure thing." You fade into the wall and might as well be a piece of furniture.
Men want a feeling that they have through great luck found a valuable woman that other men want. It’s what keeps the excitement in a marriage.
So I think little gestures of love are better than being joined at the hip with sappy emotions.
If you must give him something, give him a photo album of your prettiest pictures doing some athletic or dangerous thing. Crowd scenes are good, to remind him that you do get out into the world.
My apologies if any of this does not apply to your relationship, or if I have gone too far.
But I would not have been married so many years if I had let myself lose control of the mystery of attraction.
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July 27th, 2010 at 11:34 pm
It’s very much a girly thing, isn’t it, really?
You know your fella, better than we do, of course, but the typical bloke won’t think it half as much as wonderful idea as you do. He might well look puzzled, and think "What did you do that for?" Thus, you risk feeling very disappointed and upset.
The bloke is typically much more interested in physically SEEING the wind blowing through your hair, and FEELING the warmth of your body than he is READING about romantic meals and flowers.
You have a great sense of your romance and that’s driving your idea.
I suggest a compromise:
1. Keep an occasional diary of your romance, as it has been and continues so that you are prepared to produce "Our story" in the future. As time passes, you will have more and significant events to write about – such as the birth of your first child. It’s early days yet. In the future, you will have more material to make a meaningful story. Also, later on, your more-mature husband will be much more likely to appreciate it. Don’t be in a rush to deliver it.
2. For now, and for some time to come, spend very little time writing and spend ALL the time you can enjoying love and life! That’s how to get the most of what you have, and it will provide you with more to write about as time passes by.
Be happy!
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July 27th, 2010 at 11:52 pm
I personally don’t think you boyfriend will trully appreciate your effort. I am a married woman and an avid scrapbooker and I can tell you my husband hardly ever looks at the pages I make for our book.
This said I would still encourage you to make the scrapbook. You will cherish it for years to come and if everything works well for you guys, one day it will become a priceless treasure for your children.
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